Balancing Faith, Work, and Motherhood: Staying Present Without Overstepping
Today, I’m volunteering at my daughter’s high school—another moment in the constant juggle of work, parenting, and faith. I work full-time, managing a demanding job, yet I make it a priority to stay engaged in her world. Not just as a bystander, but as someone who shows up, even when it’s complicated.
Before I was incarcerated we shared physical custody 50/50. Now 3 years after, my daughter doesn’t want to bounce back and forth between houses. That’s her choice, and I respect it, but that doesn’t change my role in her life. She has medical issues that require careful management, dr appointments multiple times a week and and since I'm the mom.... I'm the one who manages her medication, and stays on top of her health. She may not realize it now, but I’m quietly walking beside her, ensuring she’s cared for, even if from a slight distance.
The Tension of Immersive Parenting vs. Helicoptering
There’s a fine line between being actively present and overbearing—and I’m learning to navigate it daily. It’s tempting to want to fix everything, to anticipate every need, to over-function in ways that can hinder growth rather than support it. But I also know that my presence matters.
- Showing up at school events, volunteering, and staying involved in her education—not because I need control, but because I want her to know I care.
- Managing her health responsibly—without taking away her agency, but ensuring she has the support she needs.
- Giving her space to make decisions—even when I don’t agree, praying for God to guide her journey, just as He has guided mine.
Called to Be Present, Not to Control
God has called me to walk in faith, not fear. To show up, love well, and let Him do the work in her heart. Parenting isn’t about forcing outcomes—it’s about being faithful in the role I’ve been given and allowing her to build independence, knowing she is loved and supported.
I’m still figuring out this balance, but today, as I serve at her school, I know one thing for sure: being present matters. Even when it’s hard. Even when it feels unnoticed. Even when it means stepping back while still holding space.
I trust that God sees the effort, the love, and the sacrifice. And that’s enough.
💡 How do you balance being involved in your child’s life without overstepping? Drop your thoughts in the comments. Let’s encourage one another. ❤️